Normally, I enjoy reading New York Times "Social Qs" column, but today it left me furious. A lady who'd apparently been struggling with infertility and finally got pregnant is asking how to break her good news. (I wonder who on earth, after going through the ordeal of infertility, does not know how NOT to handle this, but whatever). The advice Philip Galanes gives her? Priceless. "Share your intimate news intimately. Tell pals one on one, especially those you suspect may be struggling with fertility issues." So basically, the poor unsuspecting victim of the good news has nowhere to run and nowhere to hide, and has to put on a brave face and offer heartfelt congratulations? I don't think so. Give another person a space to process the news, give her a chance to cry in private, and then to congratulate you. Via email, again. Please. Don't do it face to face, ever. And if Mr. Galanes took time to look up hundreds of infertility blogs, he wouldn't have given such a cruel advice.
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